Treating Separation Anxiety

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On the first few days of school, young kids may miss their parents a lot. The same thing can happen to dogs of any age when their owners leave them home alone. This difference is that, instead of just the crying and whining you may see with kids, your dog may have some additional unpleasant surprises for you when you get home, including shredded pillows, garbage on the floor, and maybe the smell or telltale stains of ‘accidents’.


It’s easy to get angry or think your dog is trying to make your life miserable, but that’s not the case. It’s more likely that your dog has separation anxiety – an anxiety disorder that can cause many dog behavior problems.

Separation anxiety is one of the most common behavior issues seen by dog trainers today. Luckily, we know a lot more now than we used to about how to treat separation anxiety, so you have a much better chance of coming home to a happy dog and a clean house.

How can I tell if my dog has separation anxiety?

Separation anxiety is usually diagnosed if your dog becomes extremely upset when you leave, or when you appear to be leaving;  for example, by picking up your keys. These “exit cues” are an indication to him that you’re heading out the door, and some dogs will whine, pace, or bark. Other symptoms include:

  • Massive destruction (particularly scratches on the door), housebreaking mistakes, or neighbors complaining of howling and barking while you’re gone.
  • Ripping up or peeing on personal items like bedding, shoes, or clothing. The theory is that the dog is trying to reconnect to his or her owner through scent. It’s no fun to come home to, but at least you know your dog misses you.

If your dog does display these behaviors, it’s important to remember that they result from anxiety, not because your dog wants to drive you crazy, and that punishing your dog will only make the problem worse.

What causes separation anxiety?

Most researchers agree that separation anxiety is caused by a few different factors, one of which might be a strong genetic component — in other words, it’s not your fault! However, if your dog is “hyper-attached” to you, chances are greater that he or she will develop separation anxiety at some point.

In fact, dogs who live in households with single adults are 2.5 times more likely to have separation anxiety than dogs who live in households with more people.  Most likely, dogs who have an intense bond with their owners are more disturbed when that bond is upset.

However, the good news is that researchers did not find that “spoiling activities” had an effect on separation anxiety one way or the other, so feel free to keep sleeping with your dog and feeding him bacon. Other factors that play into separation anxiety include new ownership or a change in the household (like a new baby or moving) which can all trigger anxiety.

How do I fix it?

Separation anxiety is not an easy fix, and behaviorists generally will attack it with a three-pronged approach.

Make comings and goings no big deal. The best remedy for separation anxiety is to get your dog used to you leaving and coming back, over and over and over again. Initially, go through your cues of leaving (collect your purse, put on your coat) and then DON’T leave.

Then, start leaving for short periods of time at first, and gradually increase the time you’re gone until your dog realizes that you’re going to come back. Try to avoid becoming very excited either leaving or returning, because you are trying to keep your dog from becoming emotional. If you love that your dog goes crazy when you come home (and why wouldn’t you? Who else in your life does that?) try to remember that it’s making the separation anxiety worse.

A tired dog is a happy (and well behaved) dog. Get your dog out doing something (going to the dog park, running, games of fetch, even long walks) and he’ll be more settled around the house.

In addition, make sure your dog has plenty of things to keep him safely occupied while you are gone - like a Kong or other rugged chew toys, or bully sticks.  Obedience training or agility training can also help your dog feel more in control and calm, and crate training, if started slowly, can provide a safe haven for your dog.

Puppy Prozac? Yes, it can help. Dog pheromones that mimic the smell of a mother dog can help reduce separation anxiety, as can Rescue Remedy, an over-the-counter calming supplement. Anti-depressants prescribed by your veterinarian (particularly Clomicalm) have been found to be extremely effective when used in conjunction with desensitization techniques.

Although it might feel strange to be picking up Prozac at your local pharmacy for your dog, many owners find that even a short time on an approved drug really can help. Contact your veterinarian to see if drug therapy is appropriate for your dog.

If your dog does experience separation anxiety, know that help is available. Your veterinarian in particular should provide support and referrals to qualified trainers. Sometimes dogs with severe anxiety can make owners feel overwhelmed, but taking a step-by-step approach to treating it WILL pay off, so try and be patient. A great support group for owners of dogs with separation anxiety is the Yahoo group “K9SEPANX.”

By Jaime Van Wye

Jaime Van Wye is the CEO and Lead Dog Trainer at Zoom Room, which offers classes in dog agility, obedience, puppy preschool, therapy dog, tricks training, and a wide range of specialty classes such as Shy Dog for newly-adopted rescue dogs.

Ms. Van Wye has trained dogs in search and rescue, bomb and drug detection, criminal apprehension and tracking. She is a Certified Master Dog Trainer, a graduate of the North State K9 Academy, and a Professional Level Member of the International Association of Canine Professionals.

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5 Responses

  1. Eileen Lee says:

    Hi, I was glad to read that one owner homes have more. My mini golden doodle cries and carries on whenI leave. When he sees the signs he hides. I have to get his lead to put in crate.

    The worse part is when he wakes up early he cries until I come down. This morning that was 1 hr 45 minutes of sleep that I lost. He took his time to pee when I took him out and there was little volume so I don’t think he had anxiety about relieving himself.

    I will talk to the trainer. I do not sleep with my dog and do not want to. He is in a crate beacause he tears up everything when I tried to give him the kitchen.

    Just needed to share. He is exhausting. So I will use rescue remedy at times. The doc refused medication for this. I am thinking of benedryl as the doc said I could use it for grooming as dog gets very anxious around baths and grooming.

  2. Ruth says:

    I got a Boston Terrier when she was 3 months old. She is a holy terror. She does not like to be petted or held. She is chewing my house apart even though I have bought her tons of chew toys. If she spots my fingers she has to chew on them. Socially she is so bad, runs and jumps on everyone, scratches and bites. When I answer the door I have to pick her up so that she doesn’t hurt someone. She hates that and has bitten me. I went to cut her toe nails and before I could get all of them done, she snarl, show her teeth, and before I could let her down she bit me drawing a lot of blood. I have owned many Boston’s since I was a little girl, I’m 73 and I just don’t know what to do with this one, I don’t know how to get through to her. I read in bed on my stomach before I go to bed, and she continously runs up and down my back. Would appreciate any advise here. I don’t want to give her up, but I also don’t want to be bitten, or have her bite someone else. Help!!!!

    • Estelle W. says:

      Hi Ruth: Our trainer has this advice for you:

      “I would strongly suggest you bring her in to a trainer to begin a structured training regimen with her based on the behaviors you are seeing. You can begin at home with the following activities”

      - Take a spoonful of peanut butter and put it in the freezer. Once frozen, take the spoon out and hold it in one hand. While you hold that, pet her with your other hand. Keep her mouth occupied while you get her used to being pet and having her feet touched.

      - When you walk her, give her a high value treat (such as hot dog) each time you pass a stranger. Begin to build a very positive association with each stranger you pass. Make her believe that every time she sees a new and different person, she should get something spectacular.

      - Start to associate the door opening with being elsewhere. Stand at the door and have very high value treats in your hand. As you begin to open the door, toss the treats away from the open door. Each time she finds one, have another ready to toss. Keep this game going as she stays further away from the door. She should learn that if she stays away from the door, she will get something great.

      It sounds like what she needs to be successful is a solid training regimen that an experienced dog trainer can provide you with. Any behaviors like those that you are describing should be curbed as soon as possible to prevent them from becoming even bigger, more problematic behaviors.”

      I hope this helps! Check back in with us and let us know how it’s going.

  3. Brianna says:

    I am so glad to read that my newly adopted dog who is an 9 month chihuahua isn’t insane and has a reason for her behavior. I am a single mother with two jobs and Im out of the house for at 8hrs 6days out of the week. At first I believed princess was just happy to see me so that’s why she frantically jumped on me upon my return home. Recently she has been jumping on me in a more aggressive manner, scratching and nipping at me and destroying things . I walk her and feed her twice and can’t figure how to curve this behavior. Please any advice will help I’m starting to dread coming home to my maniac dog!

    • Estelle W. says:

      Hi Brianna: This is the response from our trainer:

      “The best way to curb over excitement when you get home is by ignoring it. This means that you don’t give her any eye contact, no talking to her, and especially no physical contact (like picking her up or pushing her off). She should be totally ignored until she is relaxed, which will probably be about 20 minutes the first few times you try. The more you ignore the bad behavior and reward the good, the better the behavior will become. Good luck!”

      Let us know how it goes!

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